Sometimes I hear from people who agree with or appreciate
what I write. I hear much less often from people who disagree with or don’t
appreciate it.
You expect both agreement and disagreement when you write an
opinion piece, which is what I do. You know what they say about opinions:
everybody has one. Someone’s opinion might line up with mine. Or it might not.
Back when I was a pastor, I’d sometimes say to my
congregation, “Sometimes I’m right and you’re wrong, and sometimes you’re wrong
and I’m right.” My saying that is #9 on my list of Forty-Seven Reasons I’m No
Longer a Pastor.
Here’s the thing, though: I do think I’m right. I do think
that my opinions are more correct than the opinions of people who disagree with
me.
If you stop and think about it, you’ll realize the utter
reasonableness of that statement. If I didn’t think my opinion was more correct
than those who hold a different opinion, then I’d share their opinion, and we
wouldn’t disagree anymore, would we? And vice-versa.
I do try to follow some guidelines in expressing my
opinions.
Guideline #1: humility. I recognize my limitations. I am
limited by my background and by my experiences. I never forget that not only do
I not know everything; I don’t even know all that much. I know a lot about a
little and a little about a lot. I remember that I am always learning and
growing. I acknowledge that I might not be fully right. I may even be wrong. Occasionally.
Guideline #2: honesty. I try to tell the truth. You may
agree or disagree with what I say. I may be right or I may be proven wrong. But
I assure you that I never write anything that I don’t believe to be the truth.
I realize that what I say might sometimes rankle some readers, but I say it
because I believe it’s true, not because I want to rankle. I will admit to
hoping my words challenge folks, but again, I want to challenge you with the
truth, not with lies.
Guideline #3: love. My goal is for love to motivate
everything I write. That means that compassion and empathy undergird my words. It
means I want to encourage us all to put other people ahead of ourselves. Such
motives characterize decent human beings. A human being who follows Jesus should
find those motives being amplified. I write and share my opinions with the
conviction that it is better to be loving than to be right. But I hope I say
everything I say because of the love I have for people and because I want us to
love each other.
You might not think that adhering to those guidelines in
forming and expressing an opinion is necessary.
Well, with all the humility, honesty, and love I can muster,
let me say that sometimes I’m right and you’re wrong, and sometimes you’re
wrong and I’m right!
